Comments on: Writing Messages on Match: The One-Line Hook

By: russruggles

russruggles — Tue, 04 May 2010 03:37:58 +0000

Hey Bill,
I guess if you can give a qualified reason for re-contacting her, you might not put yourself in too bad of a position – if you’re *sure* she isn’t going to respond to your first attempt.

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 03 May 2010 12:30:45 +0000

I sent out a message before reading your article and realize that I may have hurt my chances of hearing back. Looking back at my first message I see that it is too long and doesn’t focus enough on her interests. I’d like to try again now but with a short one line hook. Should I reference the first message or write as if it never happened?

Thanks Russ!
- Bill

By: russruggles

russruggles — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 15:17:11 +0000

Ha, Luke! Well, clearly you're a funny guy, and since all the ladies love to laugh, that's got to get you somewhere.

By: Luke

Luke — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 05:15:30 +0000

This is a no-brainer… but it deserves mention. IF YOU ARE UGLY, TRY HARDER. Lol. I’m not the best looking guy, so I know that I need to send 2-3 times more mail out than other folks. That’s how I get lai- I mean dates.

By: russruggles

russruggles — Wed, 27 May 2009 03:39:41 +0000

That is so awesome to hear Robert! I always love hearing the success stories (and even when things don’t go as planned). Just let me know if you need any more advice.

By: RGT

RGT — Tue, 26 May 2009 18:25:53 +0000

Well.. having been on Match.com for a couple of years now I thought I had the hang of it.
Ran across Russ Ruggles site so thought I’d try his strategy. This was after.. I had sent a
first message to someone who had winked at me. My message got nowhere and I thought she may not be a paying member.. but then I figured what the heck.. and sent a shorter 2nd first message..using info from her profile to elicit a response. Well.. it Worked! She sent back a long response referring to both of the messages I had sent. I learned something valuable today.. and will be using it in the future.

Thanks Russ

Robert

By: russruggles

russruggles — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 17:19:27 +0000

True, @datingpapers, but it DID work. I got a lengthy response full of comments about specific things in my profile. I dated her for almost three months. I guess, as long as they are actually interested, you at least open the door for them when you ask them a question.

By: datingpapers

datingpapers — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 20:46:46 +0000

The only issue I see with the education remark is that she seems to have already answered the question! I like the concept of asking easy, open-ended questions to get a response! Great information. I look forward to continued reading.

Seth